WHY I DITCHED HIM AFTER OUR FIRST DATE.

Why I ditched him after our first date.

I know, I know. What kind of girl ditches a ‘every lady’s’ dream man on a first date. He was everything you could use to classify a drop-dead handsome man: bristled beards,  6’2ft tall, the baritone, veiny hands with long, pretty, and well-shaped finger nails.

We met at a friend’s wedding; he was seated on my table. At first, I didn’t spare two glances at him. I was already consumed by the opinion of ‘handsome men are heartbreakers’. And I was still healing from my last break-up. I was emotionally unavailable.

Delving into the event, I would notice him stealing glances at me. Lol. I am also a pretty girl. He made loud, hilarious comments about the MC of the event that would make other members of the table burst out in laughter including me. 

I realized that he made those comments to get my attention. At the end of the event, when everyone was headed outside, I heard a ticklish whisper in my ear ‘I hope the quiet, pretty lady had fun’ , it was him, again! This time I asked him what he actually wanted from me.

And he said, ‘just one date, please. I would  love to see you, again’. I was about to alter a hefty ‘No, I’m not interested’ when he made these puppy-pleading eyes. He was quite the character and I liked that. I reluctantly said yes. 

This could my redemption and re-assurance of true love, I thought to myself. 

We decided to go on our first date two weeks after we had met in the wedding. This was the beginning of my ordeal on that date. Mr.L came to pick me up at our agreed meeting time (8pm). 

From there, he asked where I would like to go. I didn’t have a particular place in mind, I chose to settle for any place subtle and calm. 

He said he had a place in mind, only for us to land in a shabby, clustered restaurant. I didn’t want to complain. It was our first date and  that’s not a great start. 

Throughout the date, Mr.L bored me with his saturated jokes. He was only interested in talking about himself. I am certain I stated only 5-6 sentences on that date. He bragged about his far-fetched wealth and his family’s inheritance. 

The deal-breaker was when he scolded a waitress that accidentally spilled juice on him. I was certain he lacked empathy. How am I expected to stick with one that not a good match for me. For God’s sake I’m still healing from a traumatic break-up. I can’t deal with this.